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Wee Bit Wiser: Lessons from 1000+ podcasts

You can’t do it all. Isn’t that great?

Published 3 months ago • 2 min read

Wee Bit Wiser

by Jordan Harbinger

Get wiser

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Here’s something that’s been keeping me up at night:

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I’m a human being who can’t do all the things he wants to do in this life.

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There are companies I want to start, skills I want to master, trips I want to take.

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There are relationships I want to build, insights I want to achieve, feelings I want to feel.

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There are so many me’s I want to become.

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And I won’t get to experience all of them.

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In fact, I won’t get to experience most of them.

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I guess that’s pretty obvious.

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I find it devastating.

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It pisses me off, actually.

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That I just have to make peace with this.

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These non-negotiable limits of my body and mind.

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I mean, sure, I could keep working out and taking supplements and getting decent sleep so I can live longer and have more energy to do as much as I can while I’m still…

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But no.

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It doesn’t change the facts.

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I will not do most of the things I want to do.

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And then: feelings.

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Anger.

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Anxiety.

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Sadness.

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The urge to look into cryogenic freezing in the hopes that one day they figure out how to Austin Powers me back to life and I can watch my kids have grandkids and start another podcast and backpack through the Amazon for six months.

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Which is another way of saying:

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Grief.

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That’s really what this is, right?

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I’m grieving.

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Grieving my omnipotence.

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Grieving timelessness.

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Grieving the belief: I have all this time. I will not die. I can do it all.​
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So clearly I have to come to terms with that. Which I guess I’m doing. And I know that because I feel a little lighter now. Also I just closed a tab in my browser that was open to a cryogenic freezing facility.

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From here, it seems there are two paths we can take:

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Despair or gratitude.

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Anger or acceptance.

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Doing nothing or doing what we can.

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I know which one I want to choose.

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But I also know that making the more enlightened choice doesn’t mean getting rid of these feelings.

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It means making peace with those feelings too.

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Inviting them along as fellow travelers of a more honest, mature experience of life.

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Knowing that, on some level, we have already lost.

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And that in that defeat, we can choose our victories.

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Have you found this principle to be true in your world? Struggling to make use of it?​
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Hit reply and tell me about it. I’m all ears!

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On the show this past week

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1230: Oz Pearlman | Making Magical Human Connections Like a Mentalist

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1231: Owen Hanson | From USC Golden Boy to International Drug Kingpin

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1232: Open Relationship Deal Makes You the 3rd Wheel | Feedback Friday

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1233: OnlyFans | Skeptical Sunday

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by Jordan Harbinger

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