Wee Bit Wiser

by Jordan Harbinger

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Here’s something that’s been keeping me up at night:

I’m a human being who can’t do all the things he wants to do in this life.

There are companies I want to start, skills I want to master, trips I want to take.

There are relationships I want to build, insights I want to achieve, feelings I want to feel.

There are so many me’s I want to become.

And I won’t get to experience all of them.

In fact, I won’t get to experience most of them.

I guess that’s pretty obvious.

I find it devastating.

It pisses me off, actually.

That I just have to make peace with this.

These non-negotiable limits of my body and mind.

I mean, sure, I could keep working out and taking supplements and getting decent sleep so I can live longer and have more energy to do as much as I can while I’m still…

But no.

It doesn’t change the facts.

I will not do most of the things I want to do.

And then: feelings.

Anger.

Anxiety.

Sadness.

The urge to look into cryogenic freezing in the hopes that one day they figure out how to Austin Powers me back to life and I can watch my kids have grandkids and start another podcast and backpack through the Amazon for six months.

Which is another way of saying:

Grief.

That’s really what this is, right?

I’m grieving.

Grieving my omnipotence.

Grieving timelessness.

Grieving the belief: I have all this time. I will not die. I can do it all.

So clearly I have to come to terms with that. Which I guess I’m doing. And I know that because I feel a little lighter now. Also I just closed a tab in my browser that was open to a cryogenic freezing facility.

From here, it seems there are two paths we can take:

Despair or gratitude.

Anger or acceptance.

Doing nothing or doing what we can.

I know which one I want to choose.

But I also know that making the more enlightened choice doesn’t mean getting rid of these feelings.

It means making peace with those feelings too.

Inviting them along as fellow travelers of a more honest, mature experience of life.

Knowing that, on some level, we have already lost.

And that in that defeat, we can choose our victories.

Have you found this principle to be true in your world? Struggling to make use of it?

Hit reply and tell me about it. I’m all ears!

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Can’t control time. Can control this.