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Wee Bit Wiser: Lessons from 1000+ podcasts

The simple secret to finding fulfillment

Published 6 months ago • 1 min read

Wee Bit Wiser

by Jordan Harbinger

Something wise(-ish)

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It’s not accomplishment that makes life worth living.

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It’s meaning.
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It’s not external reward that gives us validation.
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It’s fulfillment.
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Ideally, we get to enjoy it all — accomplishing meaningful things, getting money and recognition for the work we find fulfilling.

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But let’s not confuse these concepts.
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If you want purpose, pursue meaning.
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If you want to be rewarded, look for the things that are rewarding.
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And if you want external success — which is a perfectly valid thing to want — look for relationships, challenges and situations that you find inherently worthwhile.

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That’s the only reliable way to develop your skills, do your best work, and stick with something long enough to generate an income from it.

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The key to self-actualization is actually very simple — which is why it’s so hard to grasp.​
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Chasing money for money’s sake won’t motivate you.
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Seeking status for status’ sake won’t gratify you.
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Plucking a purpose from a list of concepts won’t drive you to chase your goals.

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These feelings are the products of meaningful choices — not the cause of them.

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So if you’re struggling to find meaning in your life, try asking yourself a few questions:

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What do I genuinely care about, money and status aside?

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Which people and places give me joy, hope and energy, and which people and places deplete them?
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Am I grasping at concepts and labels in my life, or am I seeking out experiences and feelings?
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Answer those questions, and you’ll get much further in your pursuit of meaning and fulfillment.

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Have you found this principle to be true in your world? Struggling to make use of it?

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Hit reply and tell me about it. I’m all ears!

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by Jordan Harbinger

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