Something wise(-ish)
For all our talk about radical candor, let’s be real:
Being honest is risky business.
Speaking your mind — while important and admirable — often comes at a cost.
Hurt feelings.
Compromised relationships.
A reputation for being confrontational.
The judgments of other people.
Straight-up retaliation.
And honesty is especially tricky at work, where complicated politics can make the cost of speaking your mind — even if you’re 100% right — extremely high.
And yet being radically honest at work can also be a huge asset.
It can make you stand out.
It can put solid judgment and crucial feedback on the table.
It can send a signal that being effective is more important to you than just being liked.
All of which can do wonders for your reputation, your responsibility and your paycheck.
But it’s not enough to just be unfiltered at work. There’s an art to effective honesty.
And that art comes down to three key things:
Focusing on facts over feelings.
Being collaborative and solution-oriented.
And tapping into your courage and vulnerability.
The courage to lean into difficult conversations, and the vulnerability to own your convictions and risk the consequences — which, by the way, include getting something wrong.
If you can nail those three elements, you can deliver almost any difficult piece of news in a professional setting without tanking your career.
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Books like “Radical Candor” and "Crucial Conversations" nail this balance perfectly.
These authors studied thousands of high-stakes conversations.
They found that people who master difficult dialogue get promoted faster, earn more, and build stronger relationships.
When I'm preparing for a tough conversation, I turn to these life-changing books. Sometimes just a few key insights can shift my approach.
That's why I love Accelerated. Ten minutes with these condensed ideas sharpens my candor more than hours of distracted reading.
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But it takes time, practice and a willingness to go against the grain to develop those muscles.
These are the qualities of people who make a real impact, rise up and tend to be given more and more responsibility.
In other words, these are the qualities of a leader.
So if you want to be bolder with your opinions at work, start by exploring these questions:
What specific positive outcome am I hoping to achieve?
How can I orient this tough conversation around that goal, rather than my personal feelings about it?
How can I learn to tolerate people’s disagreement, ire or friction?
And which relationships do I need to cultivate in order to recruit some strong allies and reduce the risk of getting something wrong?
Answer those questions, and you’ll be building a solid game plan for a difficult chat at work.
And if you’re interested in hearing how this idea played out in a listener’s life…
Check out episode #1,104, where we took a question from a listener who was facing a performance review where she’d need to talk to her boss about a new protocol that was making her work less efficient and more demanding.
In that segment, we talked about how to navigate that minefield thoughtfully and carefully, in a way that actually strengthened her relationship with her boss.
If you want to learn how to voice your concerns at work without burning bridges, this segment will be a great listen for you.
Have you found this principle to be true in your world? Struggling to make use of it?
Hit reply and tell me about it. I’m all ears!
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